But after being interrogated by a teacher he didn't know and the school psychologist only to be made out to be a liar (despite the fact that I've NEVER known him to lie) and then having a doctor's appointment which was followed up with homework, he needed some time to himself. So what does he do?...
He grabbed a skateboard. A board that he begged us to get him for Christmas a few years ago, but he's maybe ridden once. He donned a helmet. He headed for the driveway. I prepared to be heading to the hospital shortly. He's not the most coordinated kid you know.
I had nothing to worry about though. He peddled along. Wait, that can't be the right term. What do you call that when they kick off with their feet? Anyway, he pushed off with his feet right down the driveway and cruised (I know, that doesn't sound right either) up and down the blacktop. He was actually balancing himself. Who knew?!
Then he began attempting tricks. Say what?! Where are the car keys?! Is my phone on me so I can call 911?! But there he was, hopping with his skateboard (nope, not a technical term, I'm pretty sure about that) and trying something he called a Front Ollie (he said it, not me). He looked focus, and content.
I knew he was in trouble for what happened at school, despite it not being as big of a deal as it was being made out to be. But I couldn't take that skateboarding time from him. Well, I wouldn't have thought to ground him from ahead of time since he's never shown any real interest in it before. That might have been him being clever, but I'll give him that win. He needs it sometimes.
Watching him skate away his problems made me happy for him and it put a bit of me at peace as well. I was really concerned over the events that I was being told about and awaiting to hear from other moms for more details.
While he was skating away, part of me wanted to skate my worries away too. Instead, I gave him a thumbs up when he was successful, an "Oh well" shrug when he almost fell, and both of those were accompanied by a smile. I've found that a smile can be just as helpful as skating away, but without a helmet! Helmets are not good for my hair...
You know they say to NEVER take recess away from a kid on the spectrum because that will make the behaviors worse. And they often have my kiddo bounce on a trampoline to help her focus on a difficult task. She also is allowed to sit on a yoga ball instead of a chair so that she can move around some.
ReplyDeleteIt's the same idea with the new swing. They gotta move! Good for him for finding his own way.
(And good luck with the school.)
kelly, you're an awesome mom. i imagine skating did a world of wonders for his emotions. i love that you always find the good in the day. wishing you and your son luck with everything!
ReplyDeletexoxo
maria
I don't think my comment went through the first time, so here it is again...
ReplyDeleteBeing a kid is tough. Thank heavens this little boy has a mother with a loving and understanding heart!
Hope everything goes well tomorrow!